My boyfriend and my biggest fan pointed out to me today that I haven't done a post in a while. So while I sit in this cute little coffee shop on Chapel Street, I got thinking what can I blog about?
When I started this blog it was a way for me to express things that I was feeling and I realised that for the last couple of weeks I have been dwelling on something... Someone else's opinion on my relationship. This got me thinking I can't be the only one who has experienced this, right?
So what was said, bet you are all dying to know, this third party, a work colleague to be exact thought it would be appropriate to tell me that I'm a bad Girlfriend. Now for those of us out there that suffer from anxiety you know that a comment like that would fuel our exisiting fears and make things worse. It's exactly what happened to me. I spent a couple of days dwelling on this and not sharing it with my Boy. When I did tell him though he told me that he was the only one who was allowed to judge if I was a bad GF and in his eyes I was perfect.
Naturally I argued with him saying that an outsider can see things that we often don't. He of course had a response to that, he said that this third party only saw what happened in the workplace. For the record, I don't like to display affactation when in the work place, he does and often results in me pushing him away. It's not because I don't want him to or because I don't like it, it's simply because I get a little shy about those things.
The more I think about what he said the more I know that he is right. This person who made the comment doesn't see us interact when we are not in the workplace, they don't see the things that we do for each other nor do they know just how much we love each other. They don't know that he saved me when I had lost myself, he taught me how to love again, he taught me how to break down my barriers and let him in, and in return I gave him all of me and I showed him that he was loved and wanted by me.
So why should this person's opinion matter, when at the end of the day we make each other happy and our nearest and dearest can see that.
When all is said and done I think that yes sometimes it is important to listen to what others have to say but it is also important to understand that they may not have all the facts and they might not be seeing the complete picture. So what lesson have I learnt? Easy.. I need to learn to not dwell on the opinions of others and to share it with my partner in crime, cause sometimes he just happens to know what his talking about.
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